We all get rejected in life. Even Jesus was rejected and still is rejected by the world and Israel, but how he and we deal with it is the key. Here is a little story from the bible about rejection.
Gen 25:29 "And Jacob sod pottage: and Esau came from the field, and he was faint: 30 And Esau said to Jacob, Feed me, I pray thee, with that same red pottage; for I am faint: therefore was his name called Edom. 31 And Jacob said, Sell me this day thy birthright. 32 And Esau said, Behold, I am at the point to die: and what profit shall this birthright do to me? 33 And Jacob said, Swear to me this day; and he sware unto him: and he sold his birthright unto Jacob. 34 Then Jacob gave Esau bread and pottage of lentiles; and he did eat and drink, and rose up, and went his way: thus Esau despised his birthright."
Esau was rejected by his brother, mom and even his dad. He was taken advantage of, cheated and manipulated out of his birthright and blessing.
Gen 27:35 "And he said, Thy brother came with subtilty, and hath taken away thy blessing. 36 And he said, Is not he rightly named Jacob? for he hath supplanted me these two times: he took away my birthright; and, behold, now he hath taken away my blessing. And he said, Hast thou not reserved a blessing for me"?
We often think of being rejected and a person feeling sorry for themselves and then we try to help them. Often civil rights and nations fight over this so-called rejection. By the way I am not saying that in some cases they have not been rejected, but often the self-pity mode will kick in and even stay for years.
But with that being said we see the real human nature kick in at some point also. Esau says in
Gen 27:41 "And Esau hated Jacob because of the blessing wherewith his father blessed him: and Esau said in his heart, The days of mourning for my father are at hand; then will I slay my brother Jacob".
He hated Jacob and he would kill him!!!!! YES, we may feel self-pity, rejected and sad for a while but at some point, we get angry, and we will take vengeance!
The key is to know our identity and renew our minds. That no matter what man may do to me My Lord Loves me and accepts me! Then extend forgiveness just as we have been forgiven. That does not excuse nor approve what the offender has done but you are releasing them into God's hands and walking with a clear conscience without bitterness. You are no longer in bondage to the rejection that griped you.
By the way by not walking in our identity and not forgiving we will become bitter. Bitter means to first be hurt then angry. Let's read,
Heb 12:15 "Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled; 16 Lest there be any fornicator, or profane person, as Esau, who for one morsel of meat sold his birthright. 17 For ye know how that afterward, when he would have inherited the blessing, he was rejected: for he found no place of repentance, though he sought it carefully with tears".
Missing the grace of God is missing everything! For God is grace and He is Love! Roots are under the ground that is the hurt, rejection, and pain you feel and may not be seen, but those roots grow and pop out of the ground into weeds. The weeds are anger, vengeance and bitterness toward others. Defile means to poison, and we can poison our spouse, kids and even friends and church with bitterness. Notice Esau again and he cried and whines about his rejection but NEVER REPENTED TO GOD!
We need to understand that our sin toward God is no less than the person who rejected us and if a perfect Lord can forgive us after we have sinned against Him can we who are human not forgive another human who sins against us. Whose sin is greater theirs or ours's???
Posted By: Howard King2/17/2024 8:29:39 AM
God asked Adam,
Gen 3:11 "And he said, Who told thee that thou wast naked? Hast thou eaten of the tree, whereof I commanded thee that thou shouldest not eat? 12 And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat. 13 And the LORD God said unto the woman, What is this that thou hast done? And the woman said, The serpent beguiled me, and I did eat".
And Adam blamed God AND Eve while Eve blamed the serpent which is Satan! NO ONE took responsibility for their own actions!
This is called the "blame game"! Putting the responsibility on someone or something else so we won't be punished or rejected. When that happens nothing is accomplished, fixed or healed, NOTHING! Protecting ourselves at all costs, while pride grows! We are then not open, honest, transparent or vulnerable to Christ!!!
It is easy to play the blame game but taking responsibility even if your part is small compared to others is important. Just call it what it is, SIN and then move on after all hasn't Christ already paid for it?
Posted By: 2/10/2024 11:32:09 AM
FEELINGS OF SIN!
As I have shared before sin started in the beginning and sin is trying to be God or our own god and independent of God.
Gen 3:5 "For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil. 6 And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat. 7 And the eyes of them both were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together, and made themselves aprons. 8 And they heard the voice of the LORD God walking in the garden in the cool of the day: and Adam and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the LORD God amongst the trees of the garden. 9 And the LORD God called unto Adam, and said unto him, Where art thou? 10 And he said, I heard thy voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself."
We all start as sinners and we all lust for love and acceptance, as well as control and power. We think we are right and so we are prideful and above God and so along with sin we have these emotions that follow or precede sin.
There are 3 "feelings" that go with all sin.
When Adam and Eve realized they were naked they suddenly felt shame. Shame comes after sin and when we are focused on ourselves.
When they hid themselves, they felt guilty and so the feeling of guilt follows all sin. Guilt also comes after sin which also feeds shame.
When Adam was afraid, he hid from God and so fear came upon them. Fear can come before or after sin. I can fear what might happen before it actually occurs. It is the most talked about in the bible and runs from Genesis to Revelation. Fear can strike at any moment on everyone. Fear of rejection which deals with people and relationship. Fear of failure which deals with our performance meaning what we do. And fear of punishment from God and others. Fear is actually being faith less or putting faith in ourselves. We may be working hard to overcome something or someone, so we fear and work harder.
So, the 3 emotions that we all feel throughout our day is shame, guilt and fear. Don't deny feeling them but just admit and renew you mind and tell yourself the truth that you are deeply loved, totally accepted and completely forgiven in Christ!
Posted By: 2/3/2024 12:02:21 PM
|God is God and I am not!
The problem with all of us in this world started in Genesis 3 and that is the fact that we want to be God! We want to do what we want to do without regard to God's ways. We want to live independent of Him, and this is called sin, and it affects every one of us.
Gen 3:5 "For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil. 6 And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat. 7 And the eyes of them both were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together, and made themselves aprons. 8 And they heard the voice of the LORD God walking in the garden in the cool of the day: and Adam and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the LORD God amongst the trees of the garden."
First, we are born into this independent way called sin and then after coming to Christ and our flesh can still behave in the same way. We sin because we choose to still be our own god and do whatever we want.
If we read verse 6, we see sin is 3 ways, good for food, pleasant to the eyes and to make one wise. 1 John explains it this way.
1John 2:16 "For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world."
Lust and pride mean to covet, and it is self-serving. It is something that is self-centered, ungodly and unrighteous. It can be in doing anything even a good thing, because it is an inward self-centered heart and mind. Sin means to "miss the mark" which means to miss GOD! We miss the righteousness of God and His standards, and made His standards known through the law but even more so through Jesus Christ our Lord!
Stop and think about your motives in life and why you do things is it for yourself or does it bring God the Glory! We may want to control others or circumstances because we fear people or consequences. We may fear rejection, failure or punishment so we try to control in these areas. We are prideful and always right yet fear being wrong. We talk to much or to little and always have to have the last word. We can do so many things that really is self-motivated and not Christ motivated. It is not loving God or others but is elf centered and seeking acceptance, attention or affection.
Stop and be honest with yourself and analyze your motives then go to God and just be real with Him and thank Him for forgiving you of your sin already!
Posted By: Howard King1/30/2024 11:57:53 AM
Satan, a subtle deceiver!!!
Satan is a subtle deceiver meaning he manipulates in ways that sometimes seems right or non-meaningful! See how he begins the conversation with Eve with a question!
Gen 3:1"Now the serpent was more subtil than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden? 2 And the woman said unto the serpent, We may eat of the fruit of the trees of the garden: 3 But of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God hath said, Ye shall not eat of it, neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die. 4 And the serpent said unto the woman, Ye shall not surely die:"
He engages her by asking "hath God said". This allows her to think he is nice and wants to talk and as most women want, a relationship with her. This is how many men manipulate women but also cults are started, as it seems logical and relational.
Satan knows the answer but puts a little twist to the truth. This is also the way truth, scripture and doctrine begin to be changed from the real meaning. Calvinist, LDS or any other cult will use just enough truth but will twist it's meaning to form another doctrine.
Eve even changed the scripture as she was answering the question, she says it can't be touched but God never said that either!!! God said don't "eat of it" she added do not touch!
Gen 2:16" And the LORD God commanded the man, saying, Of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat: 17 But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die."
This is how we can get into trouble, by not doing what God says and also adding to what He says! This is controlling, manipulative and acting independent of God.
We also must be careful not to listen to error as much as possible. The greatest problem with churches and preachers today is the tendency to teach LAW! They like grace but teach law! They misinterpret scripture from grace to fit into law or the other way around and this too is a ploy of Satan!
Pay ATTENTION and be AWAKE AND AWARE of who is speaking and to what they believe. The teaching they are teaching may be a good one on the surface, but they are speaking through the veil of deceit! As an example, the LDS are nice people who speak of God and Christ, but it is a false religion and cult and a completely different Jesus! This can happen in other churches as well.
Don't be deceived by the kindness or charismatic personalities of preachers but check out their doctrine first. What do they believe as an over thinking for their ministry!
As always IN GRACE!
Posted By: Howard King1/29/2024 12:07:10 PM
This year I think I will make Saturdays devotional more of a topical type.
Today I was thinking of the 5 R's. If you will remember the 5 R's everyday you will be doing well in life. These 5R's are what we are to do every day in some way!
1. Repent- now repent means to have a change of mind. It means to walk by faith in Christ Jesus and not to walk by our flesh. It means as we go through life, we need to take a "honest appraisal" of ourselves. When we sin, we need to say to ourselves "ok I need to have a change of mind and walk by faith and put my heart and mind in who I am in Him
2. Renew our minds- Renewing is the other side of the coin of repentance. It means to continue to know my identity that is who I am in Christ and to walk by faith. We read and study the Word so that we can renew our minds during and throughout the day. Telling our selves, the truth and rejoicing in our Lord.
3. Rest- rest is a byproduct of renewing the mind. It means to be at peace in what is true about us. It means to not strive in life but to be at rest and peace in the finish work at the cross of Christ!
4. Reconciliation- we are already reconciled to God through Christ when we are saved but now, we are to be reconciled with people. This is where the first 3 Rs unfold and manifest in our daily walk. We are always to extend forgiveness to everyone, but we may also need to seek forgiveness if we sin toward others. Forgiving others does not mean we accept or agree with the offender, but we are being obedient to God who is the only judge and being free from the offender also.
5. Reach- We are told over and over how we are to be with one another. We are to "reach" out and love, accept and forgive one another. We are to serve, teach and correct one another as well as reach out to the lost and share the gospel of grace with them. We are to reach without striving in our own flesh.
So, there you have the 5 Rs in short and by keeping them in mind you will walk by the spirit, live in freedom and reach others for Christ!
Posted By: Howard King1/29/2024 12:01:40 PM